I think my housemate sat on my things. Not that my stuff isn't in the way, and it's not her responsibility to move them. But, if she wanted to sit in that particular spot she could have asked me to move my stuff. Not that the weren't other seating options, but I won't evade that my things are in a seating area. I'm just thinking this because there was a towel place mate at the table, and some of my things seemed slightly moved, but I shouldn't make up reasons to be mad at someone. That also means she sat on the bike lock, because that wasn't moved out of the chair. I don't know what she's on to be willing to sit on a bike lock.
This is so thanks I get for allowing her to move in here, which is a hundred dollars cheaper than her last place. She claims she's still broke, so that didn't even help. I basically went against my better judgement for no reason. And it doesn't help that she tries to mock me when I'm clearly doing something intentional. When we just hanging out, it's fine, because that's not a thing I went through the trouble of setting up. But, when we at parties and I try to set up a game to make an intentional space she wants to butt in with sracastic memes and be obnoxious. I call her out, and that's the end of it, because everyone knows I'm from Louisiana and we're born and bread to act out in front of people!
She wants to change the terms of her stay. We agreed to 3-6 months, like most house mates, but the future opportunities she was once looking forward to have been exterminated by the unfortunate cause of discrimination and ignorance. We had the talk of "what if things don't work out" and she still said she would honor the deal. Unfortunately, I was unaware that I was talking to someone that doesn't know what honor is. And, was even so entitled when readdressing it thinking I'm actually going to adhere to waiting every three months for a check in. We're checking in every month, after winter, because that's what I'm doing.
We stopped being friends months ago for a reason I feel like it's still being proven (that are related to a previous event). I'm starting to think 90% of Mpls's trans community is [omits violently hostile commentary] people I would not like to come any relationships with in the future. I keep having horrible experiences with trans house mates, but I've made a few trans friends, that I strongly feel I will continue to get a long with. I'm probably not going to try to have trans house mates after a while. I know cis people can be just as fucked up, but I've had decent cis housemates. ALL the trans ones have been terrible.
But, offline I'm going to see this shit show through until one of us moves out. I'm standing it out to the universe to bring better people into my life, and I don't even have to talk to her that much. As long as we don't have guests and she does her chores, we don't have to talk at all, really. And, she has positive qualities, like anyone else. She helped me out when I was homeless, I figured it would be fitting to help her not be homeless. But, I've repaid my debt to her, and I won't be helping her with anything else. And, realistically, she's not the only problem. But I'm sick of being surrounded by abult-problem children. I want to be around people that care about themselves and others, and are more on my wave length of self improvement.
Only time will tell.
